Gain Confidence in Yourself
"Confidence comes from making mistakes. The more mistakes you make, the more you know what not to do." -Steve Tatham, staff writer, Walt Disney
Many people out there are incapable of finding a job and a pathway to successful living. If this is you, then you might be lacking one of the most important factors in brand discovery--confidence. Confidence will make or break your self-esteem, your ability to communicate, and your opportunities for success in life.
Confidence is key in a variety of life situations, including these:
- Professional networking
- Giving a presentation at work
- Meeting new people in social situations
- Impressing your boss
- Working on a group project at work or in school
A positive side effect of brand discovery is that by learning more about who you are and what you'd like to accomplish, you discover what you need to improve in your life. If you think that a lack of confidence may be holding you back, consider the following
- Remind yourself of past successes. Confidence grows with every success you have. For instance, if you get straight As during your sophomore year of college, you will have the confidence needed to get them again junior year. In contrast, a student used to failing might have given up hope. Recall the times in your life when you experienced success and the good feelings you had, then transfer those feelings into your current mind-set.
- Confront your insecurities. You need to confront your insecurities head on and tackle them. This could be anything from acne to regrets. Start by identifying them, writing them down, and telling yourself that you won't let them keep you from achieving your goals.
- Remember that no one is perfect. Everyone feels as though they are lacking something at some point. Keep telling yourself that these feelings are normal and they're nothing to get depressed over. Life is full of hardships and challenges, but they help build our characters.
- Be thankful for what you have. Sometimes you might feel as though you don't have enough of something, such as money or friendships. But the truth is that a lot of people have less than you do. Learn to appreciate what you have.
- Concentrate on strengths, not weaknesses. Since confidence comes from within, you need to have positive energy. This comes with doing what you love and what you are good at. Try writing down at least ten positive things about yourself.
- Embrace yourself and your true potential. Everyone in the world is special, including you! Love yourself for who you are, always keep in mind that things will get better if you work on them, and never, ever, lose hope.
- Find a confident role model. Find someone who has the confidence level you'd like to have and model some of his behaviors. Try speaking with him or her and getting advice, because he or she must be doing something right.
Dan Schawbel is an award-winning authority on personal branding. His Personal Branding Blog is consistently ranked in the top 100 marketing blogs in the world by AdAge, and is syndicated by Forbes, Reuters, and Hoovers. Dan publishes Personal Branding Magazine, is the head judge for the Personal Brand Awards, and directs Personal Branding TV.
This article was excerpted from Me 2.0, Build a Powerful Brand to Achieve Career Success by Dan Schawbel. To buy the book, click here.